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Etiquette rules in the United States and Canada generally apply to all individuals, unlike cultures with more formal class structures, such as those with nobility and royalty.〔Martin, Judith. ''Star-Spangled Manners: In Which Miss Manners Defends American Etiquette (For a Change).''〕 Both Canada and the United States have shared cultural and linguistic heritage originating in Europe, and as such some points of traditional European etiquette apply to both, especially in more formal settings; however, each have formed their own etiquettes as well. Among the most prominent writers on North American etiquette are Meloise, Letitia Baldrige, Judith Martin, Emily Post, Elizabeth Post, Peggy Post, Gertrude Pringle, and Amy Vanderbilt. ==Principles== Judith Martin states that if one wishes to become an accepted member of any society or group, one "had better learn to practice its etiquette." Early North American etiquette books claimed that the manners and customs of the "Best Society" could be imitated by all,〔Post, Emily. ''Etiquette.'' 1922 edition. Chapter 1. "What is Best Society?" http://www.bartleby.com/95/1.html〕 although some authors lamented that the lower classes, meaning those "whose experience in life has been a hardening process," in fact treated the rules of etiquette with "contempt and ... a sneer."〔Morton, Agnes H. ''Etiquette: An Answer to the Riddle When? Where? How?'' 1899. Page 11. http://books.google.com/books?id=D1gEAAAAYAAJ&printsec=frontcover&dq=Etiquette&ei=BxSvSdHeGJL-lQTancBx#PPA1,M1〕 Current etiquette books do not employ the concept of "best society," but rather define etiquette as a set of guidelines that "help steer our behavior as we move through our daily routines"〔Post, Peggy. ''Etiquette.'' 17th edition. Chapter 1. "Guidelines for Living." Page 3.〕 and that can help deal with "the pressures of modern life () make it all the more difficult to stay civil."〔 This change is reflected in the content of etiquette books; etiquette books published in the early 20th century contained detailed advice on the treatment of servants, the conducting of formal dinner parties, and the behavior of a debutante;〔Post, Emily. ''Etiquette.'' 1922 edition. http://www.bartleby.com/95/〕 more modern books are likely to emphasize the importance of respecting people of all classes, races, and ethnic backgrounds.〔Post, Peggy. ''Etiquette.'' 17th edition. Chapter 1.〕 Some books make a further distinction between ''etiquette'' and ''manners'': Etiquette is protocol, rules of behavior that you memorize and that rarely bend to encompass individual concerns and needs. Manners embrace socially acceptable behavior, of course, but also much more than that. They are an expression of how you treat others when you care about them, their self-esteem, and their feelings.〔Baldridge, Letitia. ''Letitia Baldridge's Complete Guide to the New Manners for the 90s.'' Page 4. http://books.google.com/books?id=3Gpe-MDs3MQC&pg=PP1&dq=Letitia+Baldridge&ei=7RGvSZjRCJ-aMpSukJIF〕 Etiquette writers assert that etiquette rules, rather than being stuffy or classist, serve to make life more pleasant.〔 Though etiquette rules may seem arbitrary at times and in various situations, these are the very situations in which a common set of accepted customs can help to eliminate awkwardness. While etiquette is often a means to make others feel comfortable, it is also the case that etiquette can serve to eliminate inappropriate behaviors in others by increasing discomfort.〔http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8318983 〕 抄文引用元・出典: フリー百科事典『 ウィキペディア（Wikipedia）』 ■ウィキペディアで「Etiquette in North America」の詳細全文を読む スポンサード リンク
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